If you want to attract a superior woman, you need to become a superior man. As much as we'd like to think that us guys choose our partners, the reality is that women do the choosing. A superior woman has many, many options to choose from, so if we want her to choose us we need to stand out from all the regular guys she meets who want her attention every single day.

David Deida's book The Way of the Superior Man is a great textbook on becoming the superior man that women are naturally attracted to. Whether you're in a relationship now or not, it's an amazingly insightful book with heaps of wisdom about what works in being a man, and on what it is about the superior man that naturally attracts women.

One of the key principles Deida teaches is about masculine and feminine energy. We all have a mixture of both energies, and the polarity between them is what sparks attraction between the sexes. Masculine energy is all about direction, purpose and mission in life. If you have no mission in life, you're lacking masculine energy. Feminine energy is all about loving and being loved. If you don't have the love that you want in your life, feminine energy is what you want to start attracting. Masculine and feminine energy attract each other like opposite poles of a magnet.

A huge problem that guys who struggle with attracting women have is that they've lost touch with their masculine energy. Guys these days have often been trained to become emasculated by well-intentioned but misguided female carers, going right back to our mothers, childcare workers and female teachers. The taught us to sit still, play nice, and be inoffensive and easier to manage.

In the process we lost touch with our masculine energy and instead display feminine traits in the hope that women will be more comfortable around us. We become “nice guys” that fall into the friend zone, rarely get laid, and wonder why women aren't sexually attracted to us. The Way of the Superior Man explains exactly why this is, and what to do about it.

I was out at dinner a couple of nights ago with a few friends, and one of the women started talking about her frustrations with her partner: “I love the way he's so passionate about his surfing", she said, "But I get so frustrated when he won't make decisions. It's like he's afraid to commit to anything. Hey, have you guys read that book 'The Way of The Superior Man?'

“Oh yeah”, I enthused, “It's an awesome book!”

“I was so offended when I read that book!”, she said, “I couldn't believe what it said; all this business about not always giving a woman what she wants, and sticking to your mission no matter what. It was offensive! ... but you know what? He's right! I love the way my partner is so passionate about surfing; it makes me want to try and get his attention when he's so focused on something. It's intoxicating for me. But when I ask him what he wants to do and he's like 'Whatever you want, I don't mind', it's really frustrating.”

And she's right. David Deida won't score any points with the politically correct feminist lobby, but that doesn't matter. If you want to rise about the herd, you have to be prepared to stick your neck out and tell it like it is. His seminars are popular with both men and women because what he teaches actually works in practice, and that's why every guy should read The Way of the Superior Man.

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.

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Matt · April 5, 2012 at 8:15 pm

One of the phrases that I'm constantly faced with, as I'm certain you are too, is that a man doesn't believe he is capable of bedding/dating a woman because she is 'out of his league,' or 'too good for him.'

This is the type of mindset that needs to be eliminated in Step #1 otherwise any future growth will be near impossible. I absolutely love this book. If you're ready to realise that NO ONE is 'out of your league,' then click the link above and buy this title!


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