In our age of gender fluidity, traditional masculine role models have come under increasing attack from a radical minority of toxic feminists. My take on feminism is that it started out with noble goals like universal suffrage and the emancipation of women, which I’m all for. But now it includes a radical fringe element who either fundamentally don’t trust the notion of masculinity, or are beta females who don’t have what it takes genetically to attract an alpha male, so instead they sit back and criticise empowered men. The tables have turned essentially, and now masculinity is under attack. So what’s the solution?
I don’t write about this much because it’s easy to get into a pointless argument which doesn’t help anyone, and I’m too busy addressing the underlying cause of the problem at the individual level, which is usually a traumatic attachment wound with our mother and/or father. One aspect of this is that if our mother was fundamentally uncomfortable with masculine energy like the modern day radical toxic feminists, she is likely to have responded by shutting us (and often our father) down whenever we acted self-determined, stood up for ourselves, made choices different to hers, or generally displayed any of the characteristics of traditional masculine stereotypes that have been selected by evolution to make us feel confident, happy, and attractive to alpha women.
The result of being shut down by the person most responsible for our early survival is that we can develop a deep fear of expressing and being our true self, and this can get triggered when we encounter criticism from women who would prefer us to adopt self-defeating behaviours that they find less threatening because it doesn’t trigger their own traumatic attachment wound. I know this scenario all too well because I’ve lived it myself.
A powerful antidote to the toxic feminist nonsense is to hear a hot girl debunk it thoroughly, while emphasising the fundamental value and importance of masculinity, which you can express in whatever way brings out the best in and ultimately feels most natural to you. Fortunately for us, Sydney Watson recently posted this most excellent video where she does exactly that, with an awesome mix of humour to boot:
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Fisher · March 8, 2022 at 1:12 pm
I am glad to see why I don’t visit my mother that often. My father, while alive, would allow me the trust I needed so I had a long leash when young. He passed and I became a drug addict so I became dependent on my mother financially. I’m pulling myself out of the hole I dug and these articles help me navigate my inner-self as I learn to live life again without substances. I had a gf while on drugs. She became a woman I called mom. Not good. She was untrusting of men the same way. I needed to get this off my chest. Hopefully, some can relate. It seems that women like these we speak of have trust issues with men possibly their father was too distrusting. If she trusts you, the women give you more leash and ability to express your self-confidence and competence. I guess traumatic events create distrust that carries on to other relationships.
Peter Tuziak · January 12, 2021 at 9:54 pm
Unfortunately like a lot of commentators she seemed to have a lot of criticisms but was a bit light on with solutions.
Graham Stoney · January 13, 2021 at 6:20 am
Exactly Peter. I reached out to her saying pretty much the same thing.
Peter Tuziak · January 13, 2021 at 2:09 pm
Did she respond? I’d love to know what she said. I’m also a bit surprised that she looks up to ‘gunslingers’. After watching that display of violence on Capitol Hill there is a case to be made against toxic masculinity – does a woman really want to spend the rest of her life with a rifle toting, violent neanderthal? Gentlemen by all means be assertive, take a lead, take responsibility but show respect as well.