How To Be A Sexual Man

You might think that being a sexual man would come naturally to every guy; but many of us have had our natural connection to our sexual energy beaten out of us through a combination of family experiences, religion, societal conditioning and past experiences where acting in a sexy manner towards women has led to us being rejected or punished in some way. Self-confidence and sexual confidence are one and the same, so learning how to get back in touch with our innate sexuality is very powerful.

Martina Hughes

With this in mind I recently attended a seminar on Being A Sexual Man led by Tantric practitioner Martina Hughes from TantricBlossoming.com. It’s great to hear a woman talking about how women want you to be up front with them about your sexuality, rather than hiding it or “leaving your penis at the door” in your interactions with women. When we pretend that we’re not sexual beings in order to get women to like us, we’re playing the Nice Guy game and often end up falling into the friend zone where we feel frustrated and emasculated. This doesn’t work for us, and it doesn’t work for the women in our life either.

When our sexuality is repressed, our life force is repressed. We feel less than alive, particularly in the way that we interact with women. Often this is related to issues that we’re still hanging onto around our relationship with our mothers: we haven’t really grown up yet and severed the mother/boy relationship we had while growing up so that we can replace it with a woman/man relationship. Women want to relate to us as sexual men, not as little boys.

Repressing our emotions and repressing our sexual energy go hand in hand. Getting back in touch with our emotions and our sexual energy puts us back in touch with the life force inside of us. The most important thing to remember is that women are longing for you to be sexual. They want a man, not a boy.

Sexual energy is powerful so it can’t be held down; when we repress our sexual energy it comes out in all sorts of dysfunctional ways that are destructive to ourselves and to other people. Everything has a light side and a dark side, and the dark side of our sexuality comes out when we repress and disconnect from it. Women can sense when we’re disconnected from our sexuality and our feelings. We come across as creepy, needy, dishonest or manipulative, leading women to mistrust us intuitively.

Never let a woman emasculate you. Always keep your balls. If a woman can emasculate you, it may give her a temporary feeling of power over you, but she will know that she can no longer trust you. Many men are waiting for women to give them permission to be sexual. Women want you to take the initiative in a way which is respectful of her choices.

There’s so much great material in this workshop I got Martina’s permission to include the audio as a free bonus product in the Confident Man program. This is over two hours of great material which also covers:

• How to avoid ending up a woman’s best friend (the friend zone)
• How to open a woman sexually
• How to navigate open relationships
• Looking at women without being creepy
• The negative impact of angry sex
• Harnessing your sexual energy
• The spiritual dimension to sexuality.
• Two meditations for getting in touch with your sexual energy.

It’s excellent hearing a woman talk about what women really want from men when it comes to sex.

Listen to the workshop preview here: