G’day, guys. Today I want to talk about how to cut the emotional umbilical cord with your mother. Now, you may wonder why you want to do this or what I’m talking about. So the emotional umbilical cord is a metaphor to refer to that ability that your mother has to control or dominate you or influence you in ways that you may not like.

Now, the origin of the emotional umbilical cord goes back to when you were an infant, when your ability to comply with what your mother wanted was kind of essential to your survival since you were totally dependent on her to feed and clothe and house you. And at some point during your development, you need to cut this emotional umbilical cord if you want to grow up from being a boy into being a man.

The sad fact is that many men in our modern society are walking around basically as children in a man’s body, and a lot of women can sense this.

So if you’re walking around really just as a boy who never grew up because you’re still emotionally enmeshed with your mother, then a lot of women that you come across will be able to pick this up and what will happen is you’ll either end up attracting controlling women, particularly if your mother was very controlling, into your life because they know that you’ve got this enmeshment still that they can take advantage of, and they’re not necessarily thinking that consciously. A lot of this operates on an unconscious level.

Or you’ll find that women just don’t find you very attractive, very handsome or very sexy because basically there’s not very much sexy about a boy. Women are looking for a man; they’re not looking for another boy that they want a mother. Some of them are, but those are not the women that you really want to be involved with.

So the key to this is cutting the emotional umbilical cord with your mother, and what I want to do is give you some practical ideas on how you can go about doing this so that you can be free to live a life that doesn’t suck all the time:

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.