This is a guest post by Monica Viera from The Female Insider. https://player.vimeo.com/video/206483485 It can be tough trying to figure out the right thing to text a woman. How do you strike that balance of showing interest but not scaring her off? And is there anything you can do with your wording that will increase the chances of her replying? Here are some suggestions for flirty texts to send her that may help you elicit a positive response. Each suggestions is classy, sweet, and thoughtful; basically all the traits most women are looking for in a man: (more…)
This is a guest post by Monica Viera from The Female Insider. [vimeo 206480734 w=640 h=360] Whether you meet a woman in person or online, it’s generally a good idea to start off with an opener that will help a woman let her guard down a bit around you. Don’t know where to start? Here are some suggestion on complements for women upon your first interaction. (more…)
This is a guest post by Monica Viera from The Female Insider. [vimeo 206478220 w=640 h=360] There’s so much literature out there that talks about mastering the art of the pick-up while failing to define with that actually means. For your convenience, here’s a short list of results you should see once you’ve mastered the art of picking up women:
- A woman feels beautiful and desired by you. She feels as though you really see her for the woman she’s become and that you’re completely enamored by who she is.
- A woman feels intoxicated under the gaze of your desire, to the point where she strongly associates that feeling with you and becomes addicted to your presence because it feels so good.
- A woman feels respected and respects you for the man you’ve become too. She regards you as intelligent, strong, and masculine. She understands your time is valuable, so she won’t lead you on with games or do things like friend-zone you.
- A woman shares the vision that you have in your head; she thinks the two of you have potential and is willing to give it a shot.
Hey there, it’s Graham from The Confident Man Project with another confidence building idea for you this week, and today I’m going to talk to you about learning to recognize tests that women throw at us guys. To get a perspective on this, you need to understand that women, particularly attractive women, are besieged by attention from guys all the time and they need to have some little way of working out which guys they want to be hanging around with. So they can’t help but start throwing out little tests to guys to find out what it is that we’re made of. Women aren’t always conscious that they’re doing this. It just becomes a habitual part of their pattern of relating to people who come up and approache them, and a lot of guys find this extremely disarming and that’s kind of the point of why women sometimes do this. http://youtu.be/80GtE10ugDQ (more…)
I often hear women giving guys who struggle when it comes to meeting women the well-intentioned but deadly advice:
Just be yourself.
Any guy seeking advice on meeting women knows that this just doesn't work. After all, you've been “being yourself” your whole life, and look where it's got you so far. Given that so many women offer this nugget of advice so frequently, it's worth looking at why it fails in practice:
Who Are You Really Anyway?
Who you are is a combination of your core self, and all the learned behaviours that you've acquired since you were conceived. Together, these make up your personality. Of all the animals on the planet, humans have the largest capacity for learning, and hence the highest proportion of learned behaviour in our personalities. Your personality is what other people experience when they meet you, but it's not really who you are at your core.
Given that most of your personality is learned behaviour, if you are sufficiently motivated and persistent you can learn new behaviours which get you better results; especially in your interactions with other people. If you feel like a failure when it comes to women, you need to realise that they problem isn't you; the problem is the way you have learned to behave and communicate.… Continue reading…
Sometimes, you just get lucky. On Tuesday evening I was sitting by myself eating a kebab on a park bench overlooking the beach at Byron Bay, a popular hippie/surfing/tourist mecca on the Australian east coast. I was having a lousy day lamenting the fact that if you're travelling by yourself it's easy to get lonely and that the onus is on us to approach other people if we want to have the benefits of any social interaction. Particularly if we want the potential rewards of female company, us guys are the ones who have to put ourselves out there and risk rejection because women never approach us. Especially not beautiful ones with sparkly personalities.
Right in the middle of this self-defeating thought pattern, a pair of drop-dead gorgeous blonde girls with nordic looks grab my attention with a friendly “Hi!” and walk over to sit down asking “Are these seats taken? Can we join you?”
“Hi!. Sure, you're welcome to join me”, I replied taken completely by surprise. So much for my negative thinking.
“What are you doing?” asked the prettier of the two.
“Eating a kebab.”
“What about you?”
“We're from Norway and I'm really sad because I've been here three weeks visiting my friend”, the prettier girl said referring to the other, “...… Continue reading…
I've been at a humorous speaking workshop today, learning what I need to know to get into the comedy/speaking/seminar game. At one point I wandered up to the two cutest girls in the room to say hello. It's a very friendly environment because almost everyone there was from Toastmasters, an organisation that people join to develop their social skills and self-confidence.
So I wander up to say "hello", and one of the girls in the pair says: "So, you're the guy that's robotic, yeah?". It was a reference to a question I asked earlier in the workshop about how to be authentic expressing emotion when you're not a naturally emotionally expressive person. I explained to the girls that I'd had some feedback about this from my acting class, and that other people had compared me to Elliot Goblet, an Aussie comic with a very deadpan delivery. Something I didn't consider a compliment at the time!
Then during our chat she had another go at me! Right... game on! I started teasing her mercilessly: "Just because you get to district level in the International Speech contest is no excuse to treat your fellow Toastmasters like dirt, you know!… Continue reading…
I can still remember the day a really pretty girl from my Venturer group stopped to talk to me at the bus stop on the way home from high school. One of the kids at school the next day asked me "Who was that girl you were chatting up?", and when I answered "That was Kate, from Venturers", his mate remarked "Actually, it looked more like she was chatting you up!". Well yes... Kate had a boyfriend at the time, and I was rather inept when it came to talking to women.
Not any more though! Today I headed out to catch up over lunch with Janice, a gorgeous intuitive girl from my acting class. While waiting for Janice, I found myself casually gazing down the street, straight past a very pretty blonde girl. She thought I was making eye contact with her, and wandered over to talk to me! I think the fact that I wasn't actually trying to make eye contact with her, combined with the fact that I was waiting for another woman, made me particularly relaxed and approachable.
Her name turned out to be Gloria. "As in Gloria Jean's", she said.
"Well that's amazing Gloria, because we're both wearing jeans.… Continue reading…
I was watching David DeAngelo's Advanced Dating Skills program the other day, and the topic of limiting beliefs was huge. A limiting belief is any belief that inhibits us from having what we want.
The reason that we don't have the success we would like all comes down to the way we behave, and this behavior is ultimately driven by our conscious and unconscious beliefs. Emotions play a big role too, and these are linked to our unconscious beliefs.
Limiting beliefs get learned through our experiences of life, and become built deep into our subconscious. They shape our default response to the world. Once any belief is acquired, our subconscious makes an automatic connection between what we observe in the world and the beliefs that we have, which makes these beliefs self-reinforcing.
We selectively gather evidence that supports our existing beliefs, strengthening them in the process; even if they aren't in our best interests. In some cases a limiting belief was in our best interests in the past, but is no longer working for us; in others, someone else has taught us a limiting belief in the past because it suited their agenda, and we took it on because we didn't know any better.… Continue reading…
I recently decided to get more pro-active about getting out there and meeting women, so I thought I'd give Speed Dating a try.
This is where you front up to an organized gathering of other singles, and have a few minutes with each woman to assess whether you'd like to get to know them better. At the end of the evening, you fill in a card saying whether you'd like to exchange contact details with each person you've spoken to. If both of you tick the “yes” box to each other, the host sends you each others contact details. Speed Dating turns out to be really fun! There were some really great people at the event I went to, and I spent the evening joking around, chatting away, and having a great time.
I'm haven't always been the world's most out-going guy, so I was wondering whether I'd enjoy it or not. But it turned out to be was way more fun and less stressful than I expected. I'd really recommend Speed Dating to anyone interested in meeting some new people in a relaxed, casual atmosphere. So here are my tips when it comes to being successful at speed dating:
- Don't take it too seriously!