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Category Archives: Emotions
Music To Make You Happy When You Feel Sad
When you're feeling sad, listening to positive, encouraging music can help you break out of it.
Here's my favorite music for turning sadness into happiness and optimism:
Chumbawumba: Tubthumping
I get knocked down. But I get up again. No, you're never gonna keep me down. Words to live by.
Paul Colman Trio: Turn
Gotta turn this life around, turn this life around. Catchy jingle about beating hard times, if you can ignore the kitsch religious undertones.
Steve Winwood: While You See A Chance
While you see a chance, take it! Great advice Steve.
En Vogue: Free Your Mind
Music To Help You Feel Confident
Music is a great way to change your emotional state, helping you feel more positive and confident. Listening to your favorite uplifting music naturally puts you in a good mood and helps you feel confident.
Here's a list of favorite music I keep on my MP3 player to help me feel confident:
Bon Jovi: It's My Life
It's your life, and you can do with it whatever you like. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
No Doubt: It's My Life
No Doubt's take on the same theme.
Survivor: Eye Of The Tiger
Classic track for getting pumped up. I … Continue reading…
The 10 Secret Keys To Happiness
Many people are looking for the answer to the basic question: how to be happy?
We all want to enjoy life and avoid suffering, but there's more to it than just that. So here are my 10 secret keys to happiness:
#1: Make A Difference To Other People
No man is an island. We're all biologically wired to live in community, and to make a contribution to the greater good. Of course we're also wired for self-protection and to get our personal needs met, but millions of years of evolutionary development living in tribes means that we can't do this … Continue reading…
Posted in Emotions Tagged confidence, emotional healing, forgiveness, gifts, gratitude, how to be happy, letting go, passion, perfectionism, talents, taoism, the game of life 13 Comments
How to Manage Stress
Stress is the unspoken epidemic of the 21st century. There's too much to do, too much pressure, too many people to please. We feel restless, tense and on edge much of the time. You can't relax. After a while, you begin to think that this is normal; the way you're supposed to feel all the time. You get addicted to your own adrenalin.
You never take the time to even breathe properly. You push, and push, and push as though your life depends on doing what you think you need to do. There's never enough time. And when your current … Continue reading…
Posted in Emotions Tagged acting, alcohol, exercise, laughter, letting go, meditation, stress, yoga 6 Comments
Emotional Healing
Traumatic or emotionally painful events in our past can leave us with emotionally charged memories that get triggered whenever we find ourselves in similar circumstances later in life. This will undermine your confidence in these situations, as the powerful emotions triggered quickly become overwhelming even though there's no real threat present.
There are a myriad of different life experiences that can cause trauma and emotional pain. Perhaps your parents were emotionally unsupportive, only loved you conditionally when you were good, or didn't approve of your friends, hobbies, interests or career plans. Maybe they argued and left you feeling unsafe in … Continue reading…
How to Overcome Social Anxiety
Social anxiety and the sense of shyness that it causes can be one of the most frustrating aspects of a lack of self-confidence. Much of our joy and happiness in life comes from our relationships with other people, and shyness cuts off many of our opportunities to meet new and interesting people before we've even begun.
In this age of computers, iPods, the Internet, chat rooms, online forums, Facebook, Twitter and other social media web sites, we're getting more and more used to relating to other people electronically. That means we're getting less and less practise at social … Continue reading…
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Rethinking Pride
Pride has been given a bad rap, and it's time to rethink it so we can all feel good about ourselves. It's a normal basic human emotion; that good feeling that we get when we acknowledge how fundamentally good and powerful we are. In our achievement-oriented society, we most often experience it when we've done something we feel good about; but genuine pride reflects a deeper sense of feeling good about who we are at our core. Pride is the opposite feeling to shame.
We've often been taught to stifle our pride, along with many of our other feelings, … Continue reading…
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Can you Relate to Into The Wild too?
Spoiler Warning: This review gives away the ending. If you don't want to know what happens, stop reading now!
I was profoundly moved by this film directed by Sean Penn. Starring Emile Hirsch as Christopher McCandless, it tells the true story Christopher's journey of self-discovery leading into the Alaskan wilderness. This film hit me hard, and I found it hugely cathartic. Despite a packed cinema, it was as though there was just me and this film connected to each other. I cried almost the whole way through.
Part of the reason I connected with it so strongly was that I … Continue reading…
How to Stop Worrying
I like that Frank Tallis has written a relatively small book on How to Stop Worrying. Although I'm much better than I used to be, I still worry too much sometimes myself, and it's nice to think that there could be a simple solution to a seemingly complex problem. And it turns out there is.
Worry fills the gap between when we realise that we have a problem, and when we have a solution in place to address it. It's our brain's way of making sure we pay attention to our problems; the psychological analogy to physical pain. If … Continue reading…
