You can Lead a Horse to Water, but You Can’t Make Him Drink

I learned a valuable lesson the other day:

I can't help guys that aren't serious about wanting help!

You see, I was chatting on MSN to a girl I'd dated recently, and she asked me:

“Graham, how is it that you have so many women interested in you?”

“Why do you ask?”, I replied

“Well, I have this friend who's really struggling to meet women. Can you help him?”

My natural reaction was to think “Sure, I love helping guys with this.” But somehow my gut instinct kicked in. Maybe it was the fact that this guy wasn't asking me directly, or perhaps it was just the phase of the moon. But something twigged in me and made me ask:

“Is he serious about this?”

“Yeah. Of course. Why do you think he wouldn't be???”

She seemed offended that I'd even considered the possibility that he might not be serious.

“OK then. Yes, as a matter of fact, I can help him...”

The girl knew that I was a writer, but while we were dating I'd never got around to telling her what I actually wrote about. I went on to explain that I had the perfect answer to her friend's question in the form of my book Confident Man.… Continue reading…

By Graham Stoney, ago