confidence

How To Overcome Approach Anxiety

Here is yet another confidence building tip for you. And today you’re going to learn about how to overcome some of that approach anxiety that you may have about talking to women who you haven’t met before.

And the key to overcoming this is to break things down into manageable steps, and the step that I want to talk to you about today is simply giving compliments to women that you see without having any kind of expectation of getting anything back from them or any kind of payback or any they’re going to like you or you’re going to end up talking to them or in bed with them. Just dropping all that stuff.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago

Get A Masculine Warrior Symbol

Symbols are very important in a lot of cultures and many religions are filled with icons and symbols that signify things that we want to remind ourselves of. It’s useful to have symbols so that we can remember certain properties or traits that we may forget during our daily lives.

So what I’m suggesting here is getting a masculine warrior symbol, something that you can hang around your neck like this, and I’ll show you mine. If you have a bit of a look, this is what mine looks like. It’s basically any kind of symbol or medallion that you can grab and hang around your neck that looks kind of cool to you, that you like and that has a masculine edge to it.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago

Get Out Of Your Head And Practice Making Choices

Here is an exercise for getting out of your head and developing your ability to make choices. Often when we lack self-confidence we lose our ability to make choices because we’ve been taught in the past that it’s not okay to want what we want, it’s not okay to like what we like and we have to be kind of bland and neutral about everything.

So in today’s exercise we’re going to start reinforcing that ability to make choices by making choices about the environment around us, and they can be arbitrary choices if you like. Any choice will do to get kick-started, so let’s have a go.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago

What To Do On A First Date

Today I want to talk about what you should do on a first date. A lot of guys are stressed out about what to do on a first date and end up setting up some fancy, highfalutin dinner date thing where the woman feels kind of trapped and the guy feels like he’s got to impress, and it’s just stress and tension and it’s just not a whole lot of fun for everybody.

So what you really want to do on a first date is simply take a woman out for coffee. Go to a coffee shop and just sit around and have a chat. Keep it nice and light and casual. Nothing too heavy-duty. Make it easy for her to escape if she needs to escape if she doesn’t like you and don’t get all caught up on the idea that she needs to like you.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago

Don’t Shave For A Week

Hey, it’s Graham here from The Confident Man Project. Today, I have a suggestion for you which you might notice I’ve got a little bit of facial hair going on here and that’s because I haven’t been shaving for about a week now. So I’ve got about a week-long growth.

If you want to make a big change in your life, one of the big ways to do that that’s pretty easy and dramatic is to make some change in your personal appearance. For instance, if you’ve never had a beard, well, try growing one. If you always have a beard, try shaving it off. If you’ve never had a mustache, try growing one of those. If you always have on, try shaving it off.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago

Develop A Strong Point Of View

Hey, it’s Graham from The Confident Man Project here again and today I want to talk to you about the concept of developing a strong point of view. Now, this is a concept I’ve borrowed from the acting world and it’s very applicable I find to guys, particularly when we lack self-confidence. Often we’ve given up on having a really strong point of view.

Perhaps our opinion in the past hasn’t really been validated or hasn’t been valued or other people haven’t respected our point of view and we’ve learnt over time to just become kind of bland and neutral in our ideas about everything.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago

Get Some Cool New Clothes

Hey there, it’s Graham again from The Confident Man Project, and I want to teach you this week about how to go out and get yourself decked out in some hot new clothes, not anything like what I’m currently wearing, ironically enough. But that’s okay because I’m going to tell you what you need to know here.

So basically the story is that if you are still wearing the sort of clothes that your mother dressed you in when you were a kid, that’s probably not the latest fashion of today and it’s probably not what you want to be wearing when you hit the town when you’re out strutting your stuff, meeting new people and just having a bit of fun.

(more…)

By Graham Stoney, ago