Here is yet another confidence building tip for you. And today you’re going to learn about how to overcome some of that approach anxiety that you may have about talking to women who you haven’t met before.

And the key to overcoming this is to break things down into manageable steps, and the step that I want to talk to you about today is simply giving compliments to women that you see without having any kind of expectation of getting anything back from them or any kind of payback or any they’re going to like you or you’re going to end up talking to them or in bed with them. Just dropping all that stuff.

The idea here is simply to get comfortable walking up to women and saying something about them that you appreciate, thanking them and then saying, “See you later.” Obviously down the track you’re going to add to this and you can engage them in conversation, but to start with I recommend that you simply see a woman who you like, notice something about her that you like, preferably something that isn’t related to her physical appearance because women have very little control over their physical appearance.

They do have a lot of control over how they’re accessorizing, their handbag and their clothes, their makeup, hair, you know. Those kind of things are things that you can compliment a woman on, and they will generally be appreciative of this if they sense that you don’t want anything from them in return, and that’s the whole idea of this exercise is simply to practice giving women nice compliments that make them feel happy and don’t expect anything in return from them.

So make sure that you smile when you do this, put on a big smile, think about the thing about the woman who you've seen that you like, walk up and just say, “Hey, I just wanted to let you know I really like your style and I just really appreciate that and, you know, I hope you have a great day.” Or you might say, “Hey, look, I just wanted to let you know that I think that hairstyle looks absolutely fantastic on you and I just wanted to let you know that so, look, have a great day and I’ll catch you around.”

Don’t hang around and be weird afterwards. Just drop the compliment and get out of there. So this will just help you overcome that fear of talking to random strangers and actually giving them a compliment that just makes them feel positive towards you.

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.