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Category Archives: Women
100 Ways To Meet Women
There are women out there all over the place. Why do so many guys have trouble meeting them? After all, there must be at least 100 ways to meet women. Some of them will probably even involve nudity. Let's see:
Go to a Yoga class
Go backpacking in youth hostels
Do a meditation class
Enroll in a Guitar class
Join a 12-step therapy group
Go to Improv classes
Go to comedy festivals
Ask for movie advice in the ticket queue at the cinemas
Participate in a Spencer Tunick photo shoot.
Take acting classes
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How to be Confident with Women
A lot of guys who are confident and capable in most areas of life still struggle when it comes to meeting and relating to women confidently. Just because you're good at your job, successful in business, sport or hobbies doesn't necessarily mean you'll be confident with women.
On the other hand, confidence with women does tend to flow over into every other area of your life. It's just one of those fundamental things that effects your whole life when you master it. So here's how to relate to women confidently:
Ask Yourself What You Really Want From Women
What is … Continue reading…
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How To Pick Up A Woman At A Party
I was recently invited to a party by a male friend of mine, to be held at a mutual female acquaintance's house. Since I didn't know the host of the party very well, and had received the invite second-hand, I was a little nervous about who was going to be there. Would I know anyone? Would I meet anyone interesting to talk to; or in fact, anyone interested in talking to me?
I still get a little nervous in social situations with strangers sometimes, as I have plenty of memories of parties and functions where I used to sit in … Continue reading…
Why “Being Yourself” Doesn't Work When Meeting Women
I often hear women giving guys who struggle when it comes to meeting women the well-intentioned but deadly advice:
Just be yourself.
Any guy seeking advice on meeting women knows that this just doesn't work. After all, you've been “being yourself” your whole life, and look where it's got you so far. Given that so many women offer this nugget of advice so frequently, it's worth looking at why it fails in practice:
Who Are You Really Anyway?
Who you are is a combination of your core self, and all the learned behaviours that you've acquired since you were conceived. … Continue reading…
Overcoming Reluctance To Approach Women
As guys, we can be our own worst enemy sometimes. I just had this question from a reader:
I have finally come to the realisation that I know enough of this stuff. What I haven’t mastered is the action step. And I don’t know why. Whenever I see an attractive woman, I know I have a lot to offer, but regardless of what I think, I still don’t actually do anything. It drives me spare to be honest. How do you connect learning and doing?
I fall into this trap too sometimes; I see an attractive woman, yet I don't … Continue reading…
The Way to Seduce Women Naturally
I've been watching Zan Perrion's The Way of the Natural enlightened seduction DVD series, and found it fascinating. He's a guy who clearly and unapologeticly loves women, and I like that his approach to women is based on respectfully giving a woman what she wants and being up-front about it rather than covert and manipulative.
Zan cites the popularity of romance novels as evidence that women are starved of romance, passion and seduction, and sees himself as a romance artist and lover of beauty, rather than a pick-up artist. Seduction is about being a man who naturally attracts and … Continue reading…
How to Meet Women
If you're lacking in confidence, meeting women can seems like a major challenge. You can't date women you can't meet, and this affects everything from your social life to your sex life. Approaching women in bars and clubs can be a hit and miss affair, and office romances can be problematic. But finding female company is easy once you know the secret to meeting women:
Get involved in activities that women also enjoy, over a period of time that gives them the chance to get to know you.
The best activities involve learning any new skill that women value … Continue reading…
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Reaching A Critical Mass Of Success With Women
There's something about reaching a critical mass of success with women, after which you feel like you're not even trying any more.
Tonight I wound up having dinner with Steph from my acting class; she's smart, very attractive, and really lovely. A pleasure to hang out with. When I got home, I found I'd left my laptop on all day, and as I went to close it I found Ruth and Liz wanting to talk to me. Oh and another email from Jenny.
I don't have time to follow them all up this week, and I'll be out practising … Continue reading…
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Advice on Difficulty Approaching Women
Got this question in the email today:
I am 54 years old and have always had a hard time approaching women. I am divorced and wasn't popular in my town because I was a poor athlete and this has always haunted me. Can you give me some advice? I will be going to Cancun, Mexico this summer and want to be attracting women while on vacation.
Here's my reply:
Thanks for your question. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. Sounds like you're hanging onto some emotional baggage from your home town, which is probably compounded by … Continue reading…
Learning How to Approach Women
I'm house-sitting for my sister down in Canberra, Australia's capital city. The only friends I know who live here are either away on holidays or out of contact. I wouldn't mind meeting some new people to hang out with while I'm in town, and I've been inspired by Joseph Matthew's book The Art Of Approaching to have a go at approaching women and starting conversations. I was talking to my friend Ruth about this back in Sydney a few weeks ago, and her advice was this:
“Look Graham, people go out to clubs to meet other people. All you've got … Continue reading…
