Hey there,

I have a question for you that could change your life:

  • Do you feel frustrated with women?

Or to go deeper:

  • Do you wonder why the girls you like don't seem to like you?
  • Do you feel hopeless when it comes to finding “the one” for you?
  • Do you find yourself feeling angry with women and not knowing why?
  • Do you get upset when you encounter rejection after rejection from women?
  • Have you given up when it comes to women, dating, sex and relationships?

Ok, that's enough... I know these can be painful questions. So I want to let you in on a secret that enlightened men have known for centuries which will help you dissolve your frustration with women:

Women are a mirror to a man's subconscious.

(In fact, everyone and everything in the world is a mirror to your subconscious. But since we're talking about women here, let's just focus on them for the time being.)

Part of the problem we have in dealing with the subconscious is that's where our emotions arise, and in our thinking-oriented society most guys have never learned the key skill of emotional mastery. So let's talk about emotions for a moment.

Frustration is a mixture of anger and sadness. It's a normal response to not getting our needs met. If you're experiencing frustration with women, it means that some emotion in your subconscious is stopping you getting your needs met around women.

That's right: something in you, not something in them.

If you direct your frustration with women outwards, you may act aggressively and end up hurting them which will lead to feelings of guilt. If you direct your frustration inwards, you may end up depressed and wondering why women avoid you. Either way, you end up with low self-esteem and stuck in a vicious cycle.

Underneath the frustration will be a feeling of powerlessness. We live in a culture that teaches us to avoid unpleasant feelings, and there are lots of ways to avoid feeling powerless: we can blame women, we can take drugs and alcohol, we can deny the problem exists, we can put on an act of bravado, we can act like a jerk or we can become overly self-reliant.

None of these work in the long run.

Ultimately, we need to face the painful underlying issues behind it.

Ironically, the first step to overcoming frustration is to accept that we are powerless. If you've done any Twelve-Step work, you'll recognise this as Step 1. It may seem a paradox, but once we admit that we are powerless, we're able to reach out to others for the help that we need to step into our own power.

The truth is that you simply can't become a powerful man on your own. You need help from other men. Ideally your father would fill this role, but for many men he was just as clueless with women too. So you may need to look to other men besides him.

It took me a long time to learn to admit to myself that I was powerless. One of the ways it showed up in my life was denying that I needed help, support and guidance from other men who had once been where I was.

I would see products like The Confident Man Program which promised me freedom from the frustration that I felt around women; but I wouldn't buy them. I preferred to “work it out myself” thinking that self-reliance would make me more confident than following someone else's advice.

Avoiding taking action to get this advice was just another way that my underlying sense of powerlessness kept me frustrated; even though the answers I needed were available right in front of me. This meant learning everything from scratch all the time. It took forever.

Eventually I worked out that I could end my suffering much sooner by getting advice from good mentors, including books and programs like Confident Man.

Once we recognise our true nature and get in touch with our inner power, we no longer feel powerless. Instead, we have feelings of inner confidence. Frustration with women then dissolves.

The Confident Man Program will put you in touch with your power as a man. If you'd like to end the frustration that you feel towards women and learn how to overcome your feelings of powerlessness around them, click here to get The Confident Man Program.

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Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.