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Category Archives: Communication
How to Handle a Woman's Tests
Women put men to the test all the time. Consciously and unconsciously, women are always sussing out what you're made of and whether you have what it takes to protect her in the big wild world. This is important to her because when you really man-up, she gets to relax and play more; which is what she really wants.
Many women throw tests at men without even realizing that they're doing it. I've had a lot of conversations with women lately about this and often they're fascinated by the whole concept. They don't even know that they've been doing it … Continue reading…
How To Be Funny
Learning to be funny can help you to be confident and there are plenty of advantages: you make other people feel good around you, become popular, and attractive. Women consistently say that they love a guy with a sense of humor, so it's worth taking some time developing yours and learning to be funny.
I've always been a pretty funny guy; my sense of humor developed for coping with boring schoolroom classes where I'd constantly be making funny comments to keep myself and the other kids amused. Needless to say, I got sent out a lot. Even years … Continue reading…
How to Gain Confidence by Public Speaking
Public speaking is often seen as the ultimate in self-confidence. After all, if you can get up in front of an audience and talk from a platform, surely you must have amazing confidence. Well, yes and no. The truth is that public speaking is a skill that anyone can learn. You don't have to have amazing confidence to do it. But like learning any new skill, particularly one that involves overcoming a fear, this will boost your general level of self-confidence; which is why learning public speaking is so appealing.
The key to effective public speaking is to … Continue reading…
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How to Flirt with a Norwegian Porn Star
Sometimes, you just get lucky. On Tuesday evening I was sitting by myself eating a kebab on a park bench overlooking the beach at Byron Bay, a popular hippie/surfing/tourist mecca on the Australian east coast. I was having a lousy day lamenting the fact that if you're travelling by yourself it's easy to get lonely and that the onus is on us to approach other people if we want to have the benefits of any social interaction. Particularly if we want the potential rewards of female company, us guys are the ones who have to put ourselves out there and … Continue reading…
Get What You Deserve by Jay Levinson & Seth Godin
Now this is one fascinating book. It points out that the way other people treat us is determined by the way we communicate ourselves to them. In every interaction we have with other people, the way we communicate is marketing ourselves to them. Even if you think you aren't involved in marketing yourself to other people and the world, you're still doing it; just not intentionally and therefore probably not very effectively. This may explain why you're not getting the results you want in some areas of your life. If you don't have the life you want, it's because you … Continue reading…
How to Communicate Sexually With a Woman
I've been watching David DeAngelo's Sexual Communication program recently, and here's a summary of what I've learned:
There as a deeper level of communication between humans that most men are unaware of. It's the same level that animals communicate on instinctively. It reminds me of what Eckhardt Tolle talks about in The Power Of Now about being totally present, and the Meisner acting technique of intuitive interactions and emotional connections uninhibited by our normal tendency to overanalyse and overthink. David D is onto something.
His four steps of sexual communication are:
#1: Sparking the Attraction
Attraction is unconscious. Women … Continue reading…
Pick-up Lines
If you're looking for pick-up lines, I'm afraid I've got some bad news for you. Pick-up lines are a short-cut solution which seem appealing, but don't work for average guys in practise.
Women will see straight through you when you use them. They'll reject you, and you'll just go away feeling worse than before. Ask any guy who is a natural with women, and he'll tell you that it doesn't matter what you say to a woman; what matters is what's going on inside you when you say it. This is why your mindset is soooooo important.
To be successful … Continue reading…
Teasing the Girl at the Humorous Speaking Workshop
I've been at a humorous speaking workshop today, learning what I need to know to get into the comedy/speaking/seminar game. At one point I wandered up to the two cutest girls in the room to say hello. It's a very friendly environment because almost everyone there was from Toastmasters, an organisation that people join to develop their social skills and self-confidence.
So I wander up to say "hello", and one of the girls in the pair says: "So, you're the guy that's robotic, yeah?". It was a reference to a question I asked earlier in the workshop about … Continue reading…
Chatting Up A Hot German Girl At The Train Station
I can still remember the day a really pretty girl from my Venturer group stopped to talk to me at the bus stop on the way home from high school. One of the kids at school the next day asked me "Who was that girl you were chatting up?", and when I answered "That was Kate, from Venturers", his mate remarked "Actually, it looked more like she was chatting you up!". Well yes... Kate had a boyfriend at the time, and I was rather inept when it came to talking to women.
Not any more though! Today I headed out … Continue reading…
How to Flirt with a Woman
If you're like me, you weren't born a "natural" when it comes to flirting with women, and it's a skill you need to develop. For the longest time, my aim in conversations was to try and get women to like me. And guess what? It doesn't work. The more we try to get people to like us, the less likely they are to end up doing so. Especially when we're relating to women. Somehow no matter how much I tried, I was always a hopeless flirt, and could never seem to get the women I was interested in, … Continue reading…
