One of my goals is to get really confident at meeting women during the day. I'm not a big fan of nightclubs with loud blaring music, and the idea of being able to approach attractive women I see going about their daily routines in a relaxed manner really appeals to me. I figure that once I learn to approach women confidently, I can travel the world and never be wanting for female company.

My friend Jack from is an expert on meeting women during the day, also known as day game. He coaches other men on how to successfully approach and start conversations with women while they're out and about. I've just interviewed him for The Confident Man Program, and here are the main points I learned from Jack about day game:

  • It's easier than you think.

  • Any skill takes time to master, and approaching women is no different.

  • Stop reading books, e-books and watching videos. You know enough already.

  • Get out there and keep it simple. Take action. Start approaching every day.

  • Take baby steps. Be patient with yourself and you'll get there.

  • Make it a habit.

  • Always be curious, fun and playful. Don't make this a chore!

  • Remember to smile and have open body language.

  • You'll appear needy if you have high expectations. Just have fun.

  • Make as many approaches as possible simply to practice.

  • Get used to women responding to you positively.

  • Make it a habit as you go about your daily life.

  • Don't be discouraged when it doesn't always go well.

  • Have in interesting life yourself.

Jack recommends learning to approach women in these stages:

  1. Learn to ask women for the time or for directions.

  2. Learn to ask about something interesting she is carrying or wearing.

  3. Learn to keep talking for 1 minute.

  4. Learn to keep talking for 2 minutes.

  5. Learn to keep a conversation flowing.

  6. Learn to ask for her phone number, or get together for coffee.

Don't rush it. Practice as many approaches as possible for each stage.

Once you've conquered the first few stages, the next step from there is to polish your conversation skills so that you can talk about anything, anywhere, any time. Jack's framework for continuing the conversation is:

  1. Ask a question.

  2. Make a statement related to her answer where you share something about yourself in a way which is fun and interesting.

  3. Circle back to another question.

Learn how to talk to women confidentlyMake interesting observations about something she is carrying or wearing, or about the environment. Be fun and curious. Conversation skills are vital once you've mastered the basic approach, and I recommend checking out Succeed At Dating's Conversation Masterclass to learn how to talk to women anywhere and everywhere.

I've done a couple of workshops with Jack's coaching company in Australia, and recommend them if you live down under. They also run workshops on meeting women in bars and clubs, if that's your kind of thing; to find out more visit

Here is a preview of the interview:

The full interview is included in The Confident Man Program.

Categories: Women

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.

1 Comment

Sherry · February 22, 2012 at 2:58 pm

Nice sharing of tips..I really appreciate this.Hope you can share more..

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