Building confidence can take time and commitment. Each success moves us closer to the goal of being the person we were meant to be, but it can be easy to overlook or forget even major personal breakthroughs when we're in it for the long haul. Our brains are wired to seek out problems in order to solve them ahead of time. This leaves many of us with a tendency to dwell on the negative rather than appreciating the progress that we're making and the awesome things that are in our life as a result. One of the best ways to counter this natural tendency towards negative thinking is to celebrate your successes by sharing them with other people. I've noticed in my own life that my conditioning against pride left me reticent to share my successes with other people. I literally felt ashamed of being proud of myself! The only way to counter shame is to share the feelings behind it with other people. If you're ashamed of your successes, I encourage you to share them with other people so that you can learn to feel good about being successful. (more…)
Well it's that time of year again. Do you make New Year's Resolutions? How did you go with last year's? Have you given up smoking yet? Lost weight? Learned to be confident with women? Or perhaps you gave up on the whole idea years ago because you found that it just doesn't work.
Well join the club. But if you'd like this year to be better than last year, you need to start doing something differently. So here's a process to make New Year's Resolutions that actually work and make a profound difference in your life:
Write Down Your Goals
The first and most important step is to frame your New Year's Resolutions as goals that you can work towards, and write them down. Get yourself a goal book to write your goals down in and track your progress towards them. Keep it handy as you'll be using it a lot: It will remind you of what goals are important to you so you don't get distracted by other less important activities, and it will help build your confidence as you start to notice goals that you set yourself being achieved.
A good life coach helps you identify your core values, picture your dream life congruent with these values, set goals to strive towards in making your dream a reality, and break your goals down into small achievable steps that you can take to work towards achieving them. It's about working out what will make you most happy and fulfilled in life, developing a plan to help you get there, and supporting you along the way.
Having a coach is like having a friend who is always really honest with you and on your side no matter what. They can help you celebrate your successes and motivate you when the going gets tough so you don't give up. They also help you identify and resolve blind spots, emotional barriers and other issues that get in the way of your personal happiness which you mightn't otherwise recognize.
You might think that a good friend could do everything for you that a life coach can, and that would be true if your friends are all positive, encouraging, success-oriented and don't let their personal agenda get in the way of supporting you.… Continue reading…
Life is difficult when you don't feel good about yourself. Low self-esteem can lead to a lack of self-confidence, difficulty in relationships, social anxiety, depression, and a general sense of unhappiness and disillusionment with life.
But you don't have to suffer from low self-esteem. Here are some steps you can take to build high self-esteem and greater self-confidence:
Work Out What Is Important To You
When we know what we stand for and what our basic values are, we're much less susceptible to the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. Even when things don't go our way, we've still got our core values to fall back on. Values that are important to us also act as a guiding light to help us make decisions, and recognize when we're acting out of integrity. The more we act in integrity with our basic values, the more self-esteem we tend to generate.
Spend some time writing down a list of values that are important to you, like happiness, love, respect, success, relationships, family, friends, etc etc. Prioritize the list by asking yourself "Would I give X up for Y?" as you work your way down it.… Continue reading…