Hey, it’s Graham here from The Confident Man Project with some tips for you on how to feel more confident when you’re having conversations with other people. And the biggest tip that I have in fact is to read a book on the subject which is this one called How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tips for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes.
Obviously our sense of self-confidence is most pronounced or lack of self-confidence is most pronounced when we’re trying to have conversations with other people and we’re feeling like, “I don’t know how to do this,”, “I don’t know what to say and how to relate to these people,” or, “I’m feeling shy or awkward or socially anxious.”
All that kind of shit tends to happen when we just don’t know how to do it, and one of the easiest ways to boost that confidence in any area of life is simply to study how you do it. So this book, How to Talk to Anyone, teaches you how to talk to anyone. It’s basic kind of conversation skills and you might feel a bit ridiculous having to read a book on learning how to do that, but let’s face it, guys, we often don’t learn this stuff when we’re at school because we’re too busy out on the sports field playing footy and punching people in the head and doing all that kind of shit that we do.
This book really goes through a whole bunch of great tips that you can learn that will improve the way that you relate to people and the way that you talk to people. It’s busted up into a bunch of different sections, and what I recommend you do is that you read the book gradually rather than in one massive hit because you’re just going to get overwhelmed. What you need to do is to practice these tips in your conversations with people in between actually reading them.
I recommend that you read a tip a day and just gradually work your way through the book, applying the tips as you go along so that after you read each tip you go out into your work life or into the world or you’re meeting women or guys or whoever you’re talking to and you can actually practice these tips out in the real world so that you will then reinforce them and learn in your subconscious and in your behavior how to talk to people more easily, and you’ll feel more relaxed and confident. So, great book, How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes. Check it out.