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Category Archives: Self Esteem
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Just leave a comment below letting us all know how your site, product or service helps men along with a link to it. Other readers will be able to find out about you and search engines will see the link you've left … Continue reading…
How to Recover from a Violent or Abusive Childhood
Being abused as a child or being raised in an abusive environment can have a profoundly negative effect on your adult self-esteem. As children we generalize our experiences and assume that the whole world operates the same as our immediate circumstances. If we felt unsafe, unloved, unfairly criticized or hurt as a child by the people who were supposed to take care of us, it can effect our whole perspective on life and be devastating to our self-confidence.
Domestic violence, verbal, emotional and sexual abuse during childhood are insidious because they destroy our natural sense of trust and color … Continue reading…
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How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem
Life is difficult when you don't feel good about yourself. Low self-esteem can lead to a lack of self-confidence, difficulty in relationships, social anxiety, depression, and a general sense of unhappiness and disillusionment with life.
But you don't have to suffer from low self-esteem. Here are some steps you can take to build high self-esteem and greater self-confidence:
Work Out What Is Important To You
When we know what we stand for and what our basic values are, we're much less susceptible to the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. Even when things don't go our … Continue reading…
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How to Recognize and Overcome Perfectionism
Perfectionism will undermine your self-confidence like nothing else. Trying to maintain a facade of perfection all the time and holding yourself to unachievable standards is exhausting; I know, I've tried. But before you can do anything about perfectionism, you need to be able to recognize it.
Here are some clues that you might be suffering from perfectionism:
A deep fear of failure, and sense of devastation when it happens
Getting upset when you don't win all the time
Feeling ashamed of your thoughts and emotions
Holding back on expressing how you really feel
Fear of what others might think of
Forget About What Your Family Thinks Of You
For many men I know who lack confidence, the seeds of low self-esteem were planted early on in childhood by our families of origin. In an ideal world, our parents created an environment in which we could flourish as a young boy, thrive as an adolescent, and fulfill our potential as a man: confident and self-assured. We felt loved unconditionally, got on brilliantly with our siblings, and learned to deal constructively with conflict that inevitably occurs within any family.
In the real world though, things work a little differently. Unless parents make a conscious effort to deal with their personal … Continue reading…
4 New Videos To Help You Build Self-Confidence
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Build Self-Esteem by Becoming Self-Validating
If you grew up in an environment where you felt a sense of unconditional love, you probably developed strong self-worth and confidence by default. And you're probably not reading this. But if you felt early on that love was tied to acceptance and approval from other people, you may have developed a bad habit of seeking approval from other people as a way of feeling good about yourself.
The problem with seeking validation externally from other people is that our self-worth ends up at the mercy of their moods and on what we imagine other people are thinking of us. … Continue reading…
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Stem Cell Research Offers Hope To Men With Backbone Injuries
Embryonic stem cell research is offering new hope to millions of men who suffer daily from the effects of backbone injuries acquired during childhood and adolescence. According to Dr Gung-Ho at the University of Penisilvania Medical Centre, this new treatment could offer a permanent cure to men suffering from a specific type of spinal injury that has been dubbed Nice Guy Syndrome.
“I see these guys in my clinic all the time”, says Dr Gung-Ho. “Their condition usually results from an injury to their backbone during childhood or adolescence, often caused by a domineering mother crushing their spirit between … Continue reading…
How to Recover from a Christian Upbringing
I grew up in a conservative Christian church-going family. During years of Sunday school, church services and various fellowship groups, I was fed a diet of deception which helped undermine my fragile self-esteem. My sensitivity and having emotionally disconnected parents who were in constant conflict didn't help, and it's difficult to judge exactly how much of the damage was due to religious indoctrination, and how much was simply due to the environment I grew up in. My parents could return from a church service where the minister preached on the theme of “Love”, and have a blazingly abusive argument. … Continue reading…
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover
The most striking thing I notice that guys who lack confidence and struggle to attract the women they want in their lives have in common is Nice Guy Syndrome. This affliction is characterised by the constant seeking of approval from other people (especially women), an intense fear of rejection, and a misguided belief that we can get our needs met by always being unfailingly “nice” and inoffensive to other people.
Dr. Robert A. Glover is a therapist who works primarily with men who are suffering from Nice Guy Syndrome. As a recovering … Continue reading…
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