Got this question in the email today:

I am 54 years old and have always had a hard time approaching women. I am divorced and wasn't popular in my town because I was a poor athlete and this has always haunted me. Can you give me some advice? I will be going to Cancun, Mexico this summer and want to be attracting women while on vacation.

Here's my reply:

Thanks for your question. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. Sounds like you're hanging onto some emotional baggage from your home town, which is probably compounded by your divorce. So I'd start by looking at the ways in which your existing mindset could be contributing to the problem. Start dealing with your emotional baggage. Consider some therapy. Go into emotional areas you've been afraid of.

At the same time, start developing some of the skills women find attractive. Can you dance? Or play music? Dancing will help you enormously to build self-confidence, and will be really handy down in Cancun. Also learn some new social skills, like how to flirt and how to approach women.

Women love confident men. Grab a copy of my ebook Confident Man, and follow the advice in it. It worked for me. You'll get there too.

I also highly recommend Joseph Matthew's book The Art of Approaching.

Let me know how it goes down in Cancun!

Cheers, Graham

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Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.