Sacred sexual healers deal with psychological, emotional and physical issues on a sexual and spiritual level. They harness the intense power of our sexuality to heal emotional wounds, and they handle sexual issues directly often by dealing with the guilt, fear and shame that many of us have around sex.

You visit either a Daka (male) or Dakini (female) sacred sexual healer and participate in healing rituals that vary according to what they sense your underlying issues are.

For example say your lack of confidence is causing, or caused by, sexual dysfunction. A Dakini can help you by going all the way through the sexual process with you and identifying any potential points at which you might be getting anxious, or any other issues that might be coming up for you. This is better than dealing with your sexual issues by practicing on unsuspecting women you meet, who haven't agreed to be used for that.


  • You learn to set boundaries

  • Great at dealing with guilt, fear and shame

  • Harness the power of sexuality for healing purposes

  • The healer may be willing to go places nobody else will

  • Liberate sexual tension from your body


  • Sacred Sexual healers aren't licensed therapists

  • About as extreme and non-mainstream as therapy can get.

  • What a Dakini can do with you could get a licensed therapist thrown in jail

  • Risk of mismatched expectations, especially if you have weak boundaries

  • The distinction between a sacred sexual healer and a sex worker may not be clear

  • Mainstream religions tend to disapprove of Sacred Sexual healers

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.