In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, the therapist challenges your unhelpful thinking patterns to replace them with more constructive ideas, while also encouraging you to change the way you act in the world. This is the most common form of therapy out there these days, having combined the best aspects of Cognitive Therapy and Behavioral Therapy, thus ending the dispute about which was better.

The way you think has a profound impact on how confident you feel, and the way you act has a huge impact on how confident other people see you. Both combine to affect the results that you get in the world, especially from your interactions with other people. Rather than focusing on just one or the other, CBT attempts to address both at the same time so you get twice the bang for your therapy buck. The therapist can also focus on whichever is causing you the greatest trouble at the time.


  • Best of both worlds: change your thinking and your actions at the same time

  • Widely practiced and readily available

  • It works


  • Doesn't give a high priority to emotions, which are the root cause of the problem
  • All the emphasis on change can make you feel that you're not good enough the way you are

  • You may end up retelling the same old painful stories over and over

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.