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How to be Confident with Women

A lot of guys who are confident and capable in most areas of life still struggle when it comes to meeting and relating to women confidently. Just because you’re good at your job, successful in business, sport or hobbies doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be confident with women.

On the other hand, confidence with women does tend to flow over into every other area of your life. It’s just one of those fundamental things that effects your whole life when you master it. So here’s how to relate to women confidently:

Ask Yourself What You Really Want From Women

What is it you’re really looking for from women anyway? Is it love, intimacy, sex or a relationship? Or are you really seeking validation and approval from them, trying to compensate for a lack of true self-esteem? Most guys who struggle to feel confident with women are still trying to make up for childhood love we didn’t get from our mothers or stability we didn’t get from our fathers. If you had an [intlink id=”480″ type=”post”]emotionally disconnected mother[/intlink], or a [intlink id=”518″ type=”post”]passive or emotionally unstable father[/intlink], this can undermine your self-esteem and show up as nervousness around women.

If you have mother or father issues that are unresolved, get some emotional healing so you don’t carry this emotional baggage straight into your next interaction with a woman.… Continue reading…

By Graham Stoney, ago

How to Gain Confidence by Public Speaking

Public speaking is often seen as the ultimate in self-confidence. After all, if you can get up in front of an audience and talk from a platform, surely you must have amazing confidence. Well, yes and no. The truth is that public speaking is a skill that anyone can learn. You don’t have to have amazing confidence to do it. But like learning any new skill, particularly one that involves overcoming a fear, this will boost your general level of self-confidence; which is why learning public speaking is so appealing.

The key to effective public speaking is to tell stories in which you have some emotional investment. Your emotions are what connect you with your audience. If you can get up on stage an relive an exciting or emotionally engaging story, and tie it to some lesson or point that you learned, people will want to hear what you have to say. The secret is to avoid going into presenter mode where you lecture people, which audiences hate. And the way to avoid lecturing is to tell stories.

Storytelling is fun, entertaining, and helps you overcome your self-consciousness in front of other people. Plus you’ll find that if you tell personal stories, other people will relate to what you have to say and you’ll get positive reinforcement from them, further adding to your growing confidence.… Continue reading…

By Graham Stoney, ago