Let Other People Get Out Of Your Way

Hey, it’s Graham here again from The Confident Man Project, and you’re about to learn another fun way of building your self-confidence. And today what I want to talk about is letting other people get out of your way.

I first came across this concept when I was in a stage production of the musical Grease and I had managed to land the role of one of the leads of Kenickie in this show. Kenickie is the tough guy that owns Grease Lightning, walks around in the leather jacket and is Danny’s off-sider in the show.

And we were in the middle of rehearsals and the director came up to me and started shouting at me while we were rehearsing one of these scenes, and he said, “Kenickie, you don’t move out of other people’s way. You’re the leader. You’re meant to walk where you want to walk and other people get out of your way.” And I was completely shocked and taken aback. I was like, “Oh, oh yeah. I’m the leader. Other people should be getting out of my way.”

So take this lesson into your life. You are the man. You are the leader. Other people can get out of your way. Now, I’m not saying that you need to barge your way through life, pushing people over or being a bully, but I find often when I lack self-confidence I tend to be dodging and getting out of other people’s way when I walk, trying to do what’s right for other people, trying to put all their needs first instead of my own.

But when we have confidence, we go directly for what it is that we want in life and we let other people deal with their stuff in their own time. So practice this while you’re walking through your daily life. Take on the idea that you are the man, you are the leader and other people get out of your way, and see what a difference it makes in your level of self-confidence this week.