My friend Stan rang last night to give me an update on how he's going with this whole life and dating thing. He recently turned 40, and has been single and frustrated for quite some time. But when I heard his speech at his 40th birthday party last year, I sensed that he was ready to make some changes in his life. He'd had enough of being miserable. He wasn't just going to sit back and keep feeling bitter, resentful or hurt about life any more. He was ready for some action.

So I sent Stan a draft copy of Confident Man as his birthday present. And to be honest, even I have been amazed at what this guy has been up to since then. In short, he's taking massive action, and already getting incredible results.

Flicking quickly through the program in the book, Stan is already well into implementing Steps 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 8, 9 and Skills 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 13. It's incredible. The program is deliberately ordered so you take the Steps and learn the Skills that make the biggest difference first. And that's exactly what he's doing. He's even doing some stuff I'd never thought of, that I'll have to put in the next edition. The man's a machine!

And what do you know... this stuff really works. He's already finding that women are drawn to him now. He's not desperate any more. He's more approachable. He's doing what he wants and becoming a better man, on his terms. He's no longer expecting women to make him happy; he's making himself happy. And the result? Women at work, at dancing, at gigs he plays; they're all taking an interest in him now, where they weren't before.

If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that to get anywhere with anything, you need to take action. That's the only way to achieve results. Nobody is going to do this for you. Women are attracted to men who act, even in the face of doubt and uncertainty. We need to learn what action to take to get the result we want, and then get off our proverbial behinds, get out there and take it. This stuff is just awesome.

I can't wait to hear from Stan again to see what he's up to next, and how he's doing. It's inspiring. I can't wait to hear how you go. If you want to start having the success that Stan's having, get out there and start taking action by getting your copy of the Confident Man eBook.

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.