I recently came across a great TED talk by social scientist Amy Cuddy titled Your body language shapes who you are. Her research shows that simply adopting a power posture for two minutes can increase your testosterone, reduce your stress hormone cortisol and make you more powerful in social situations… all of which translates into greater self-confidence.
She goes on to describe how to overcome the feeling of being a fraud not just by faking it until you make it, but by faking it until your become it.
From now on, I’m walking around my unit with my arms in a power pose. I don’t care what the neighbors think! Check it out:
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Jens · March 9, 2017 at 9:06 am
Thank you for sharing this talk. I wrestled with tears as I heard “you’re not supposed to be here” which reminded me of this subconscious message that I had received at school from my bullies. Had I watched this at home I would have cried.
Becoming the (more and more) confident man that I am today has also been a matter of two minutes, two minutes, two minutes: Tiny steps towards confidence, presence and masculinity, towards being the knight for my vulnerable inner boy.
Much more healing awaits us. But, hell, we’re a good team now.
Graham Stoney · March 9, 2017 at 1:23 pm
Thanks Jens; yes, I found that part really moving too. I had a similar experience in my first week at college studying music the other day too. One step at a time hey!
Cheers,
Graham