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I recently got a question about how to cut emotional ties with a controlling parent in response to my article on How to Recover from a Controlling Mother. I know a lot of guys struggle with the conflict that happens when we begin to break free from our parents during adolescence, and this can keep us emasculated for years while we continue to seek a controlling parent's approval. It helps to know that the conflict that arises when we individuate is a perfectly normal process; albeit one that controlling parents often over-react to.
I'm a 20 year old man. I was adopted, my sister wasn't. Yes, I've grown up with a controlling mother. I have always been musically inclined and have had a passion for music. After high school, I wanted to take a year or two off to pursue this and generally dick around with my friends while I was young, and maybe figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I had left high school with scholarships and an 88 average. 3 years later, I'm a third year University student in History (I had to take something in University, forced into choosing a major, she's paying for it) I'm struggling to maintain a 75 in my University courses, I've been experimenting with drugs, and I have no clue with what I want to do. … Continue reading…
Life is difficult when you don't feel good about yourself. Low self-esteem can lead to a lack of self-confidence, difficulty in relationships, social anxiety, depression, and a general sense of unhappiness and disillusionment with life.
But you don't have to suffer from low self-esteem. Here are some steps you can take to build high self-esteem and greater self-confidence:
Work Out What Is Important To You
When we know what we stand for and what our basic values are, we're much less susceptible to the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. Even when things don't go our way, we've still got our core values to fall back on. Values that are important to us also act as a guiding light to help us make decisions, and recognize when we're acting out of integrity. The more we act in integrity with our basic values, the more self-esteem we tend to generate.
Spend some time writing down a list of values that are important to you, like happiness, love, respect, success, relationships, family, friends, etc etc. Prioritize the list by asking yourself "Would I give X up for Y?" as you work your way down it. Stick the result on your wall, and memorize your top 3.… Continue reading…