Hey, it’s Graham here again from The Confident Man Project, and you’re about to learn another fun way of building your self-confidence. And today what I want to talk about is letting other people get out of your way.

I first came across this concept when I was in a stage production of the musical Grease and I had managed to land the role of one of the leads of Kenickie in this show. Kenickie is the tough guy that owns Grease Lightning, walks around in the leather jacket and is Danny’s off-sider in the show.

And we were in the middle of rehearsals and the director came up to me and started shouting at me while we were rehearsing one of these scenes, and he said, “Kenickie, you don’t move out of other people’s way. You’re the leader. You’re meant to walk where you want to walk and other people get out of your way.” And I was completely shocked and taken aback. I was like, “Oh, oh yeah. I’m the leader. Other people should be getting out of my way.”

So take this lesson into your life. You are the man. You are the leader. Other people can get out of your way. Now, I’m not saying that you need to barge your way through life, pushing people over or being a bully, but I find often when I lack self-confidence I tend to be dodging and getting out of other people’s way when I walk, trying to do what’s right for other people, trying to put all their needs first instead of my own.

But when we have confidence, we go directly for what it is that we want in life and we let other people deal with their stuff in their own time. So practice this while you’re walking through your daily life. Take on the idea that you are the man, you are the leader and other people get out of your way, and see what a difference it makes in your level of self-confidence this week.

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Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.

2 Comments

Mark Bosworth · March 20, 2015 at 12:04 pm

I see this as a valuable lesson…Not to bully or take advantage of my strength, but to “OWN” it. When I was a little boy they said ” do unto others” and I just about died of trying to please others , esp. My Parents, They seemed to over-excercise their authority as my father was in the navy. There is a difference between “letting them get out of my way” and forcing situations is think. Thanks for the “Heads UP”.

    Graham Stoney · March 20, 2015 at 8:03 pm

    Totally, Mark. People-pleasing is a recipe for unhappiness in the long term. I think it’s all about balance. Thanks for your comment!

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