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Yoga
Yoga is an Eastern combination of mindfulness, breathing and body movement which has been used for centuries for handling stress and anxiety. The physical body movement involved helps to get you out of your head and calm your constant upsetting thoughts.
Long before the invention of modern psychiatric pharmaceuticals Yoga was dealing with mind problems for free. It also helps maintain your body flexibility and improve your breathing practices. Besides, Yoga classes are also an excellent way to meet interesting women. Need I say more?
Advantages:
Increasingly common and easy to learn
Great for your flexibility
Excellent way to
Timeline Therapy
In Timeline Therapy, you work with a facilitator who constructs a creative visualisation where you go back in time to before whatever traumatic event has has undermined your confidence. Then you allow yourself to feel the feelings of confidence that you felt before the event, and transport those feelings forward into the future. You see your full potential open up before you, and start living your life towards the new possibilities that you imagine unfolding with this new and more positive view of yourself and your future.
This is a common Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) technique. Generally you get your body … Continue reading…
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Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Richard Bandler and John Grinder were interested in why some people achieved excellence in their lives, while others languished in frustration and mediocrity. They figured that if you wanted to be good at something, all you had to do was look at someone else who was good at the same thing, and copy or model them. So they modeled Milton Erickson, the most effective therapist they knew, and they created Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) based on how he related to his clients.
NLP isn't so much a therapy as a toolbox full of way to get more out of your mind, … Continue reading…
Psychoanalysis
Freud's baby. The therapist sits back and listens as you lie on the leather couch and waffle on for billable hours about your shitty childhood, and how much you hate your parents. He steers you off superficial stories and into the really deeply painful ones as you probe the very depths of your troubled psyche together.
Advantages:
Probably the most thorough therapy out there
You'll feel like a movie star
Makes you rich if you're a psychiatrist
Disadvantages:
It never ends
Costs a fortune
You need to be a movie star to pay your therapy bills
Perhaps Freud was wrong
Breathwork
Breathwork is based on the idea that emotional energy from traumatic events can get stuck in our bodies, central nervous system, and/or brain; and that conscious breathing techniques can be used to liberate it. Even the trauma we experience during birth may be stuck in our subconscious affecting us on a routine daily basis despite us not consciously remembering it. Using breathwork to resolve unhealed birth trauma is sometimes referred to as rebirthing.
A facilitator takes you through a series of intense breathing exercises that bring repressed emotions to the surface, liberating them from your mind and body. Often done … Continue reading…
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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprogramming (EMDR)
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprogramming (EMDR) is based on the idea that the Rapid Eye Movement (REM) that happens during the dreaming phase of sleep causes our brains to process unresolved emotions. The therapy attempts to resolve emotional trauma by inducing the same healing mechanism while conscious in the therapist's office.
The therapist asks you to rate how anxious you feel about a situation that troubles you, then waves something in front of your eyes for several minutes while you focus on it, allowing your eyes to dart from side to side rapidly. At the end, they ask you to … Continue reading…
Primal Therapy
You spent over a decade being socialized by the school system: told to sit down, shut up, keep your feelings to yourself and be a good boy. Sure, you're a social being and a member of the tribe... but really deep down you're an animal. Primal therapy gets you back in touch with your animal instincts and your primal roots through a combination of anger expression exercises, chanting, dancing, and other primitive tribal rituals.
Advantages:
Hugely cathartic
Learn to express and release anger
The next best thing to an exorcism
You get in touch with your power as a man
Exposure Therapy
The key to dealing with any form of debilitating anxiety is to expose yourself to a mild dose of the situation that makes you just a little anxious, but not overwhelming so. The anxiety subsides naturally as you master the situation, building your confidence. You then increase the intensity of the situation, always remaining below the level at which you feel overwhelmed.
Psychologists call this Systematic Desensitization or Exposure Therapy. Psychologist Dr Russ Harris described it in our interview as “The most powerful technique in all of psychology”. It works extremely when done correctly, and my online confidence building … Continue reading…
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
This therapy integrates the most useful parts of Western psychology, and Eastern philosophies. It includes the Buddhist idea that most human suffering is caused by an attachment or desire for things that are often temporary or unattainable. So you start by accepting everything exactly the way it is, without trying to change it. Fighting against reality is the cause of a great deal of our angst and suffering.
Having accepted that things are the way they are and you are exactly the way you are, you can then learn some new skills to help deal more powerfully with life. This … Continue reading…
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, the therapist challenges your unhelpful thinking patterns to replace them with more constructive ideas, while also encouraging you to change the way you act in the world. This is the most common form of therapy out there these days, having combined the best aspects of Cognitive Therapy and Behavioral Therapy, thus ending the dispute about which was better.
The way you think has a profound impact on how confident you feel, and the way you act has a huge impact on how confident other people see you. Both combine to affect the results that … Continue reading…
