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Hi, I'm Graham. I had 18 years of formal education - that's 12 years of primary and high school, and then another six years at university studying engineering - and during that time, I learnt a lot about how to think but very little about how to feel or how my emotions worked.
In fact, I can't remember in that entire time a single class where I sat down and had a teacher teach me how my emotions work.
Now, possibly maybe in art classes or in music classes or maybe even in English they might've come close, but really nothing all that direct and concrete.
And that's a shame because, fundamentally as humans, we're all driven by our emotions. All our behavior is an attempt to either move towards pleasure or move away from pain.
So emotions are absolutely key to getting what we want in life. They're also the key to a successful relationship, especially with women.
So in the rest of this article, I'm going to give you a quick introduction into how your emotions work.
The way we think has a profound impact on our self-confidence and our success in life. Paul Blackburn and his team at Beyond Success run a great workshop called Resolving The Mindset Riddle that teaches how to deal with our thoughts more powerfully so we can have the confidence and success in life that we really want.
Positive thinking sounds great in theory, but trying to change our thoughts by sheer force of conscious effort rarely works. The key to changing the way you think on a deep and lasting basis is to recognize that most of what goes on in our heads actually happens subconsciously. The conscious part of our brain that we're aware of is relatively small and insignificant compared to our subconscious, which is much more powerful. We don't usually like to admit this, but our subconscious is actually running the show. If you've ever noticed a conflict between what you wanted to do and what you actually ended up doing, it's because your subconscious is in charge.
We're not usually aware of what's going on in our subconscious, but we can get a clue by tapping into our emotions which arise from the subconscious part of our brains.… Continue reading…
Traumatic or emotionally painful events in our past can leave us with emotionally charged memories that get triggered whenever we find ourselves in similar circumstances later in life. This will undermine your confidence in these situations, as the powerful emotions triggered quickly become overwhelming even though there's no real threat present.
There are a myriad of different life experiences that can cause trauma and emotional pain. Perhaps your parents were emotionally unsupportive, only loved you conditionally when you were good, or didn't approve of your friends, hobbies, interests or career plans. Maybe they argued and left you feeling unsafe in your own home. Perhaps there was abuse and violence in your family. Or your parent's divorced or separated, leaving you wondering if you were to blame. Perhaps your brothers and sisters, or other kids at school didn't accept you, or you were bullied, or the girls didn't want to play with you. Maybe your childhood sweetheart broke up with you, left you for another guy, or just didn't want to be around you in the first place. And then they went on to become a media star, reminding you of the pain every time you saw them on TV even years later.… Continue reading…