I've decided to declare this year The Year Of Badass. Now this doesn't mean I'll be getting all tattooed up, dealing drugs out the back of my place, joining a motorcycle gang, doing drive-by shootings or burning down the homes of people I don't like. It's not about being an asshole.
Being a badass dude is about living via our internal compass and doing life the way we want, rather than trying to keep other people happy doing what they think is acceptable all the time. It's going to piss a few people off mainly because they'll be jealous that they aren't living their life the way they know, deep down, that they should be. Trying to keep everyone else happy is a recipe for misery. So being able to tolerate the discomfort that other people will feel when we live life our way is all part of learning to be a badass. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable occasionally.
At the same time, I've recently taken a deeper interest in Taoist philosophy. The ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tze recognised that life had a certain flow to it, and that by living in accordance with our true nature we can live life much more easily. When we stop fighting against our deeper nature, things that used to seem difficult now become effortless. It's almost as if the action we take requires no action at all because we're living in accordance with “The Way” of our essential nature and the nature of life around us.
But if living in harmony with our true nature is so effortless, why haven't we all worked out how to do it by now? It's all very well to say I'm going to live life my way and stop suppressing my true self so that I can experience the sense of flow that the Taoism describes; but how do we even know what our true nature is when we've been subjected to so much external conditioning from parents, schools, religion and society?
I believe that external conditioning and the emotional damage caused by the punishments and rewards we've been subjected to in our early life are a big part of the reason why most men are out of touch with their true nature. It's also why most women are not attracted to these men, and often find their relationships with men so dissatisfying.
Right while I was pondering this problem of how to get more deeply in touch with my own true nature, I came across a resource that combines these very two ideas I'd been contemplating: The Tao Of Badass: Everything You Have To Know To Be A Complete Badass With Women by Joshua Pellicer.
Turns out I wasn't the only guy struggling to undo my conditioning and learn how to be a masculine man who women will be naturally attracted to. Here's Joshua's reality check: “Everything you do, consciously and subconsciously, is to achieve the end goal of attracting the woman of your dreams”. He also suggests that living in accordance with your true masculine nature also pays dividends in your income, you work life, and just the way you interact with society in general.
Here is what you'll learn to master:
- Male and female gender roles
- Confidence, and how to get it
- Body language
- Personal and social value
- How to demonstrate high value
- Tapping into a woman's emotional brain
- Power and leadership in communication
- Desensitising yourself to rejection
- Recognising and dealing with women's tests
- Creating love
- The big mistakes most men make and how to avoid them
- A complete system for approaching women as a badass dude
I've read a lot of books about the topic of male confidence, and this one has to be the most practical, succinct and straight to the point. If you want to be more successful with women and in life generally, check out The Tao Of Badass.