Here is an exercise for getting out of your head and developing your ability to make choices. Often when we lack self-confidence we lose our ability to make choices because we've been taught in the past that it's not okay to want what we want, it's not okay to like what we like and we have to be kind of bland and neutral about everything.
So in today's exercise we're going to start reinforcing that ability to make choices by making choices about the environment around us, and they can be arbitrary choices if you like. Any choice will do to get kick-started, so let's have a go.
Now, all you have to do here is go about your daily routine, and as you wander through your environment just call in your head the things that you see and start making choices about them: ugly footpath, horrible posty-thing, beautiful trees, nice car, nice tree, lovely tree, nice grass, ugly footpath, smelly bins, nice wall, dirty footpath, beautiful sky, nice tree, beautiful car, horrible rock, nice rock.
Any choices that you make are fine to get you just into the mode of being able to make choices about the things that you like and don't like. Nice plants, nice footpath, pretty letter boxes, nice car. You get the idea. Do this 10 minutes a day for the next week and you'll start developing and reinforcing your ability to choose the things that you like. Good tree, horrible driveway, nice road.