In an ideal world, your father taught you everything you need to know in order to grow into a confident, powerful, successful man. In the real world, my father didn't know half of what I needed in order to be the man I was meant to be. That meant I needed to find other male mentors to fill in the gaps. If you talk to anyone successful at anything, you'll discover that they didn't get there on their own: they had help from their teachers and mentors. So I suggest that you specifically seek out men who have achieved what you want to achieve, and learn everything you can from them.
Your relationship with a mentor can take many forms. Mentoring may happen in person, remotely via email, at training courses, or through books, ebooks and websites. It may be a one-off interaction, a short term relationship or a longer term arrangement. Successful people love passing on their wisdom, seeing other people flourish and helping them avoid the obstacles that they got stuck on in their own journey. Some mentors coach others willingly for free as part of the way they give back to the world, and others make a living doing it professionally. Whatever you're looking for, there are mentors out there waiting for you to make contact with them.
Mentors who want to help as many people as possible often distill their wisdom into a book for mass consumption. This is what I did: I distilled everything I learned about becoming a confident man into The Confident Man Program so that I could help far more people than I could if I was coaching people individually. Consider the connection and the valuable wisdom you can get from a mentor who you may never actually meet, but has valuable insights to share with you in writing.
Other mentors love the human contact and rewards that come from seeing their mentees grow. I have taught and mentored people directly as a life coach, and through the mentoring program my Toastmasters club. I love seeing people overcome their fears and grow in confidence to fulfill their potential.
I wouldn't have gotten where I am today without supportive mentors, and I will continue to rely on encouragement, support, advice and wisdom from other people as I head where I want to go in the future. No single person has all the knowledge, wisdom or insights that I desire, so I rely on a wide variety of mentors with a diverse range of relationships.
Some of my mentors who I've found helpful and would recommend have been:
- Women & Dating: David DeAngelo
- Street Dating and Day Game: Alex Coulson
- Approaching women: Joseph Matthews
- Money: Napoleon Hill, Stuart Zadel
- Manhood/Masculinity: Steve Biddulph, David Deida
- Humor in Public Speaking: Darren LaCroix
- Story Telling: Craig Valentine
- Subconscious: Steve Sweeney
- Free Self-Expression: Billy Milionis, Sanford Meisner
- Men's Psychology: Dr Paul Dobransky
- Mindset: Paul Blackburn
- Emotional Mastery: Nicholas DeCastella
- Blogging: Yaro Starak
If you're interested in developing your confidence in any of these areas, follow the links above, check out their products and make contact with them to see how they may be able to help you get where you need to be faster than you can on your own.