One of the activities that I recommend in The Confident Man Program Guide is to learn to play a musical instrument. There are a whole host of benefits to doing this beyond simply being able to play music: You also learn a whole bunch of life success skills in the process such as:

  • Committing to a challenging task
  • Taking daily action towards your goal in the form of practice
  • Dealing with plateaus and setbacks
  • Overcoming your own resistance to success
  • Developing both sides of your brain: analytical and emotional
  • Expressing yourself on a deeper level
  • Having more fun!

Once you've got some basic skills under your belt you can also jam with other musicians and join a band where you'll also learn:

  • How to work with other people with different skill sets
  • How to learn from other people
  • How to contribute to other people's development
  • The balance of give and take
  • When to lead and when to follow
  • How to blend in and how to stand out
  • How to have even more fun with other people!

Whatever personal development benefits playing music might have, the most important thing for me is that it's fun. And girls love a guy that can play guitar. I get a different reaction from women now that I'm a musician than I did when I was a computer engineer.

"Fuck it... be a Rock Star!"

Who would have thought?!?

I now have a bunch of musician friends that I jam with regularly, and even do volunteer work with a charity that provides music and yoga to disadvantaged people.

In fact, I'm so hooked on playing music that I've enrolled in a full-time music performance course in 2017.

I took up music late in life, so I although part of me keeps telling myself that I'm too old to become a rock star... the dream keeps drawing me forward. Sometimes you've just got to stop listening to that old critical voice in your head that says you can't do it.

Given that I'm now pursuing a career in music, I won't have as much time for 1-on-1 coaching and writing on this blog in. But you'll be hearing from me musically, and for me that's more exciting now. I would never have guessed that this is where I would be heading when I first started learning to play guitar 7 years ago, but that's the power of taking action. You never know where it will lead!

What's your plan for next year?

Categories: Life Skills

Graham Stoney

Graham Stoney

I struggled for years with low self-esteem, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence before finding a solution that really worked. I created The Confident Man Program to help other men live the life of their dreams. I also offer 1-on-1 coaching via Skype so if you related to this article contact me about coaching.