I want to share a secret that will change your life. But first, a question:
- Do you feel frustrated with your life?
Or to go deeper:
- Are you stuck in a dead-end job?
- Uncertain what you really want to do?
- Do you find yourself feeling angry and not knowing why?
- Do you wonder why the girls you like don't seem to like you?
- Have you given up when it comes to women, dating, sex and relationships?
OK, that's enough... I know these can be painful questions. But I want to let you in on a secret that enlightened people have known for centuries which will help you dissolve your frustration:
The world is a mirror to a man's subconscious.
Everything you experience in your life is a reflection of what's going on deep down in your own mind. It may seem a little woo-woo at first, but once you learn to recognise this you'll see how true it is.
Part of the problem we have in dealing with the subconscious is that's where our emotions arise, and in our society most guys have never learned the key skill of emotional mastery. So let's talk about some of the more troubling emotions for a moment:
Frustration is a mixture of anger and sadness. It's a normal response to not getting our needs met. If you're experiencing frustration with your life, it simply means that something is stopping you getting your most important needs met.
And that something always boils down to an emotion in your subconscious.
If you direct your frustration outwards, you may act aggressively towards other people and end up hurting them; which will lead to feelings of guilt. If you direct your frustration inwards, you may end up depressed and wondering why other people avoid you. Either way, you end up with low self-esteem and stuck in a vicious cycle.
Underneath the frustration will be a feeling of powerlessness. We live in a culture that teaches us to avoid unpleasant feelings, and there are lots of ways to avoid feeling powerless: we can blame others, we can take drugs and alcohol, we can deny the problem exists, we can put on an act of bravado, we can act like a jerk or we can become overly self-reliant.
Anything that will help us avoid facing the painful underlying issues behind it.
Ironically, the first step to overcoming frustration is to accept that we are powerless. If you've done any Twelve-Step work, you'll recognise this as Step 1. It may seem a paradox, but once we admit that we are powerless, we're able to reach out to others for the help that we need to step into our own power.
The truth is that you simply can't become a powerful man on your own. You need help from other men. And if your father wasn't a powerful man, or abused his power over you, then you'll need to turn to other male mentors instead.
It took me a long time to learn to admit to myself that I was powerless. One of the ways it showed up in my life was denying that I needed help, support and guidance from other men who had once been where I was.
I would see products like The Confident Man Program which promised me freedom from the frustration that I felt; but I wouldn't buy them. I preferred to “work it out myself” thinking that self-reliance would make me more confident than following someone else's advice. Or I took free advice from people who were often even more clueless than I was.
Avoiding taking action to get valuable advice was just another way that my underlying sense of powerlessness kept me frustrated; even though the answers I needed were available right in front of me. This meant learning everything from scratch all the time. It took forever.
Eventually I worked out that I could end my suffering much sooner by getting advice from good mentors, including books and programs like Confident Man.
Once we recognise our true nature and get in touch with our inner power, we no longer feel powerless. Instead, we have feelings of inner confidence. Frustration then dissolves as we start getting our needs met more and more often.
The Confident Man Program will put you in touch with your power as a man. If you'd like to end the frustration that you feel in life and learn how to overcome your feelings of powerlessness, click here to get it now.