7. Connect With Other Men
Often if we’ve been heavily emotionally enmeshed with our mother, our relationships with other men will have suffered because mommy’s trying to control us all the time and men can instinctively pick this up as well and will notice that you’re not really all that appealing to be around and that you’re basically just a boy in a man’s body.
So I highly recommend that you connect with other men while going through this process. It’s also very important to have the stability and support of masculine men who know where they’re at in life, know what they’re doing and are not at the whim of your mother.
See, you’re the only man on the planet that sees your mother in the way that you see her. Other men just see her as a woman in her 70s, 80s, 60s; however old she is. They’re not really going to care too much what she thinks or how she feels or what’s important to her. There are going to be things that are more important to them.
You’re the only one that really has this relationship with your mother because of the way that she brought you up. Hanging around other men can give you a bit of stability and a bit of sanity, particularly during the times when your mother is overreacting and making out that the world is ending simply because you’re establishing some healthy boundaries in your relationship with her.
So, yeah, get support of other men. I highly recommend getting a man as a coach if you’re in this situation and you’re just not sure what to do. I’m available; you can get in touch with me through The Confident Man Project. Hook up on the forums, grab a copy of The Confident Man Program Guide and start breaking that emotional enmeshment with your mother so that you can start living a life that you absolutely love, rather than one that kind of sucks because it’s been built for you basically by a woman who did what she wanted rather than what you really want.