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Category Archives: Emotions
Rethinking Pride
Pride has been given a bad rap, and it's time to rethink it so we can all feel good about ourselves. It's a normal basic human emotion; that good feeling that we get when we acknowledge how fundamentally good and powerful we are. In our achievement-oriented society, we most often experience it when we've done something we feel good about; but genuine pride reflects a deeper sense of feeling good about who we are at our core. Pride is the opposite feeling to shame.
We've often been taught to stifle our pride, along with many of our other feelings, … Continue reading…
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Can you Relate to Into The Wild too?
Spoiler Warning: This review gives away the ending. If you don't want to know what happens, stop reading now!
I was profoundly moved by this film directed by Sean Penn. Starring Emile Hirsch as Christopher McCandless, it tells the true story Christopher's journey of self-discovery leading into the Alaskan wilderness. This film hit me hard, and I found it hugely cathartic. Despite a packed cinema, it was as though there was just me and this film connected to each other. I cried almost the whole way through.
Part of the reason I connected with it so strongly was that I … Continue reading…
How to Stop Worrying
I like that Frank Tallis has written a relatively small book on How to Stop Worrying. Although I'm much better than I used to be, I still worry too much sometimes myself, and it's nice to think that there could be a simple solution to a seemingly complex problem. And it turns out there is.
Worry fills the gap between when we realise that we have a problem, and when we have a solution in place to address it. It's our brain's way of making sure we pay attention to our problems; the psychological analogy to physical pain. If … Continue reading…
Healing The Shame That Binds You
When a fellow recovering-computer-engineer friend of mine SMS'd me saying: “I've worked out what the problem is... it's shame.”, I knew immediately what he referring to. The perpetual self-consciousness and lack of confidence that kept plaguing me, the low self-esteem, the anxiety and awkwardness around other people, the fear of embarrassment, the worry about what other people thought when I asserted myself, the vague feeling of inadequacy and the sense that I somehow wasn't good enough all came down to one underlying emotion: Shame.
I knew instantly that my friend was right, yet it took me over a … Continue reading…
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Many of you may have heard of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. Whilst there is no standard definition of PTSD, it is generally agreed that PTSD is an anxiety disorder that occurs when a person sees their life flash before their eyes. For example they are involved in, or witness, a near death incident, or a series of events resulting in them having the perception that life as they know it, is about to end.
Emotional overload in these circumstances causes the primitive region of the brain called the limbic region, responsible for brains involvement in emotions, to recalibrate … Continue reading…
Posted in Emotions Tagged anger, anxiety, courage, emotional healing, fear, guilt, post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress disorder, PTSD, recovery, shame, worry 1 Comment
Defeating Depression for Men
I've been there myself, and I know how debilitating depression can be. It sucks the life out of you. There's a zoned-out feeling in your head, a blank look on your face, and an all-pervading sense of hopeless like you've never felt before. The light has gone out of your eyes. It's a different feeling to sadness, which tends to pass when you've cried it out. Depression hangs around like a dense fog, clouding your judgement and colouring everything a nasty shade of grey.
Psychiatrists will tell you that depression is due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. They're … Continue reading…
Posted in Emotions Tagged anger, anxiety, confidence, depression, emotions, exercise, fear, religion, seduction, self-esteem 4 Comments
