Emotional wounds from early life can have a profoundly detrimental effect on our self confidence and our ability to be successful in life.
Even wounds that we're unaware of or reluctant to acknowledge can still strongly effect us because they operate on the unconscious or subconscious level. These wounds can lead to self-sabotaging behaviour that may be obvious to other people, while we remain oblivious to what's going on. Yet we keep encountering similar painful experiences in life over and over, unable to pinpoint what's causing this pattern or how to break out of it.
Often deep emotional wounds that we may be unaware of are at the heart of our ongoing suffering. Fortunately my good friend Peter Saxon is an expert on dealing with exactly this problem in men's lives, and I recently seized the opportunity to interview him on the topic.
My favourite quote from this interview is:
“When we really get to experience our feelings directly without avoiding or grasping or going to the emotional drama of the feeling, and are actually be able to sit with it, and then look to identify what the need is underneath that feeling, and getting help to meet that need: life changes dramatically.”
Here's a summary of what you'll learn in this interview:
- We need other men to affirm our masculinity
- Men and women process emotions differently
- Mastering your presence leads to a feeling of relaxed confidence
- Dealing with core feelings of grief, hurt, abandonment, betrayal and rejection
- How the subconscious mind gets imprinted with emotions
- How negative core beliefs get established and reinforced
- Why conscious affirmations don't go deep enough
- How the subconscious mind attracts experiences that validate our core beliefs
- Emotions are addictive leading us to get stuck in destructive emotional patterns
- How projection of old emotional wounds happens
- How to investigate unconscious beliefs
- Body mindfulness and the importance of healing body sensations
Listen to a preview of the interview here:
The full interview is included as part of The Confident Man Program.
Resources mentioned in this interview: